Within the thirty fourth episode of The One P.c Present, I talked with Leander Paes, the Indian tennis legend broadly considered one of many best doubles gamers in tennis historical past. We explored Leander’s outstanding journey over 4 a long time to grow to be a tennis legend, his philosophy on laborious work, endurance, and coping with losses and failures, and his recommendation to the younger technology on enjoying the lengthy sport, in tennis and life.
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At one occasion throughout our dialog, Leander mentioned one thing actually lovely –
It’s okay to cry. It’s okay to really feel lonely. It’s okay to be unhappy. It’s okay to really feel that you’re disillusioned in your self or in another person. It’s okay. However what’s necessary is the fast restoration time. You may’t dwell on that. Cry your tears, really feel disillusioned, really feel your highs and your lows, and transfer on fast.
That restoration time between the precise act of shedding and the precise act of profitable, and shifting to what the following activity is, the shorter that interval, the extra profitable you can be.
That is such highly effective recommendation from Leander – that of a “fast restoration time.” It’s like emotional elasticity, the power to stretch with life’s challenges after which snap again into form.
Additionally, he doesn’t advise us to suppress our emotions however to expertise them absolutely after which transfer ahead with intention.
Leander echoed Charlie Munger’s philosophy, who as soon as mentioned –
Typically talking, envy, resentment, revenge, and self-pity are disastrous modes of thought…Life can have horrible blows, horrible blows, unfair blows, it doesn’t matter. Some individuals get well and others don’t. There I believe the perspective of Epictetus is one of the best. He thought that each mischance in life was a chance to behave nicely. Each mischance in life was a chance to be taught one thing and that your obligation was to not be immersed in self-pity, however to make the most of the horrible blow in a constructive trend. That may be a excellent thought.
Give it some thought for a second – how usually will we get caught in a loop of adverse feelings, replaying disappointments or failures? Leander suggests a special strategy. Really feel it, embrace it, then let it go.
Now, this isn’t as straightforward because it sounds as a result of it requires apply, endurance, and self-compassion. But when we will grasp this stability between honouring our feelings and dealing on our resilience to have the ability to bounce again from our setbacks with renewed focus, we will transfer by means of life with grace and energy.
Because the American professor and mindfulness instructor John Kabat-Zinn mentioned –
You may’t cease the waves, however you may be taught to surf.
The following time you might be hit by a wave of emotion, keep in mind Leander’s and Charlie’s recommendation – don’t keep away from the wave, however surf it. You’ll be positive.
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This can be a masterpiece.
– Morgan Housel, Creator, The Psychology of Cash
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Classes From a Thinker President
The New York Occasions carries an interview with José Mujica, the previous President of Uruguay (2010-2015). Within the interview, Mujica shared just a few unimaginable classes on life and dwelling, together with this –
You’re free if you escape the regulation of necessity — if you spend the time of your life on what you want. In case your wants multiply, you spend your life protecting these wants.
People can create infinite wants. The market dominates us, and it robs us of our lives.
Humanity must work much less, have extra free time and be extra grounded. Why a lot rubbish? Why do it’s a must to change your automobile? Change the fridge?
There is just one life and it ends. You must give that means to it. Struggle for happiness, not only for wealth.
And this –
…life is gorgeous. With all its ups and downs, I really like life. And I’m shedding it as a result of it’s my time to depart. What that means can we give to life? Man, in comparison with different animals, has the power to discover a goal.
Or not. Should you don’t discover it, the market can have you paying payments the remainder of your life.
Should you discover it, you’ll have one thing to reside for. Those that examine, those that play music, those that love sports activities, something. One thing that fills your life.
I’ve by no means heard of Mujica, however now I lengthy to discover him.
Notes to Myself
What does success actually imply to me? I ought to take into consideration this. Possibly it’s totally different from what I’ve been chasing. Price exploring. It might be about private development, relationships, or making a distinction. I must outline it for myself, not let others or society dictate it. Which may change how I spend my time and vitality.
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Subsequent time one thing feels laborious or uncomfortable, I’ll attempt to not keep away from it. It might be an opportunity to develop. I’d shock myself. Discomfort usually indicators that I’m pushing my boundaries. However that’s the place actual progress occurs. Even when I fail, I’ll be taught one thing useful. And the long run me could thank the current me for that.
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I must focus extra on my relationships. Spend actual time with individuals, and have significant talks. These moments keep on with me greater than stuff I purchase. High quality over amount all the time wins in friendships. I should be there for others, and allow them to be there for me. I must share my fears, desires, and laughter. These connections give life richness and assist throughout robust instances. I must spend money on them like I’d in another necessary a part of life.
E book Advice
Like all of his books, I really like Ruskin Bond’s A E book of Easy Dwelling for the essence it captures of quiet moments, the appeal of nature, and the enjoyment discovered within the mundane.
What conjures up me most about this guide is its capability to distil knowledge from on a regular basis experiences, with a name to decelerate and respect the little issues that usually go unnoticed.
Bond’s writing displays a deep reference to nature and a life lived in concord with it. His observations are easy but deep, and supply solace and a way of peace within the chaos of the world.
One of many passages that resonates deeply with me is –
I believe Tolstoy summed all of it up when he mentioned: “One ought solely to jot down when one leaves a bit of 1’s flesh within the ink-pot every time one dips one’s pen.”
To which I’d humbly add: There’s something to be mentioned for ink-pots. And the hand that holds the pen. It have to be far tougher to share one’s physique and soul with a typewriter or laptop. I deserted the typewriter way back. There’s something sensual, bodily, intimate about writing by hand. It takes me again to my childhood, once I was first studying to jot down letters and be a part of them collectively. Once I had any problem, my father would put his hand on mine and information it alongside the web page.
His hand continues to be there. I really feel it now, at the same time as I write.
And will loving, long-gone arms contact yours, pricey reader.
We’re not alone.
When you have not learn it but, give A E book of Easy Dwelling a attempt.
Quotes I’m Reflecting On
The aim of life is to not be blissful. It’s to be helpful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some distinction that you’ve lived and lived nicely.
– Ralph Waldo Emerson
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To reside is the rarest factor on this planet. Most individuals exist, that’s all.
– Oscar Wilde
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The best glory in dwelling lies not in by no means falling, however in rising each time we fall.
– Nelson Mandela
That’s all from me for at the moment.
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